Mary R

Mary R

Saint Paul, MN

To me American means family. I wish those in congress would feel the same.

My husband came here illegally when he was in his teens with his parents. My husband graduated from high school here and also went to college. We have a good life. We have a daughter who is 3 today and my older daughter from a previous relationship will be 11soon. My 11yr old doesn’t know her real dad as he left her life when she was a baby. My husband and I met 8 years ago when my older daughter was 2. My husband has been a great dad to her. After 5 years of dating we got married and had our daughter (our now 3 year old).

My husband’s family came here because they were poor in Mexico and needed food. I still hear times where his sister calls their mom because they do not have food to eat. I met my husband through a friend. My husband is my best friend and has good moral character. Since he came here without inspection with his family he will need to go back to Mexico for 10 years unless I can write a really good research paper, called a waiver, about my life.

We are preparing for my husband to leave soon. How do you prepare to say goodbye to your husband though? How do you prepare your kids? What if I can’t write a good enough “paper”? I want us to be a family but I can’t see moving my kids into Mexico where we will live in poverty. We plan on staying here without my husband. We will be poor here in the states but there is government help here for us and food shelves. It is so sad because with my husband here we haven’t needed government help. Now our family is going to be ripped apart.

When I think too much about it I cry. I cry at the thought of myself and my kids crying as we say goodbye to him with our arms reached out. It doesn’t have to be this way. I write this in hope of a change to the system so other families will not suffer this kind of loss. What the government is making us do in order for my husband to obtain legal status is un-american. How can banning a spouse and loving father of United States citizens be American?

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