My partner was petitioned to come to the US by his parents, who were already here, but due to their failing health he had to come before his paperwork was approved. He has been taking care of them for the past 12 years and is *still* waiting for approval. He can’t work, he can’t travel, and I do my best to support us both on one salary. We are deeply in love, but his impermanence gets in the way of us pursuing a traditional relationship (marriage, shared bank accounts, domestic partner benefits, etc.). What a broken system!